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Karen's avatar

I wholeheartedly agree.

Feminism has changed so much as to be unrecognisable.

Today's feminists are not only anti men, they are anti women.

The word has been hijacked by people who support ideologies, like trans, Islam and Hamas.

It is no longer a word for decent people to be associated with.

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Kelli's avatar

Absolutely true!! I think they secretly hate women.

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Karen's avatar

They do, especially successful women.

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Xan's avatar

I think they hate everyone!

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EKB's avatar

The western world no longer has true feminists. When you side with islamist murderers and rapists you are no longer prowoman.

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Liz's avatar

Same with trans-women are women 🙄

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Miff's avatar

Absolutely brilliant piece Kelli!

I have 5 sons and 1 daughter ( my youngest) I bring them all up to be strong, caring and kind.

My father behaved like a gentleman, he held the door and gave up his seat to anyone he felt needed it more than him. We were all my Dad's favourite girl ( he had 4 daughters) and I bring my sons and my daughter up to be the same.

My Mum was a feminist ( and still is, despite dementia setting in). She reminded me everyday that as a woman I have an equal opportunity of the intelligence that i was born with that my sex does not define who i am or who i can be, that doing my best, always benefits me, whatever the motive for striving to do my best.

I love how my two very different parents created a world where I was loved. Roles changed through my parent's lives and sometimes within minutes. My own role and now my children's roles are fluid, depending on our needs. Its not about gender, its about caring about each other as humans. I see my daughter practising her mummy skills on me and her much older brothers and I embrace that, and I see my sons sometimes struggling for where their place is in this world and I try to teach them, as my parents taught me, that they are equal and that sex does not define who they are or who they can be and that they should always strive to do their best.

Thank you Kelli, for putting into words my feelings on the matter ❤️

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Kelli's avatar

This is beautiful Miff. Thank you 🙏🏻

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Just plain Rivka's avatar

“It’s not about gender, it’s about caring about each other as humans.” Love this.

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Thomas Meyer's avatar

Miff, thank you for "sharing" your parents with us. Your description of them is beautiful. They're heroes.

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Miff's avatar

Thank you Thomas, they are our heroes! Even with dementia my Mum still read Scientific periodicals 😂 she's a huge role model for me and my children ❤️😂

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Karen's avatar

This deeply resonates with me. The alleged “women’s rights“ movement lost me officially and most personally with their blaring silence about Israeli women abducted, tortured and raped by Hamas on October 7. These groups no longer get to claim they stand for anything.

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Kelli's avatar

Exactly

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Tanto Minchiata's avatar

That’s the right answer. Hatred for the sake of hatred is a losing proposition. Being an adult means being able to parse information, weigh the options objectively, see the one with the greater net good and move in that direction. At least it should mean that. Many do not seem capable of this life math anymore. They are ideological fanatics, absolutists, cultists. They are very sure of right and wrong and if you disagree with their ideology, you need to be censored or fired or socially cancelled- or physically attacked. Don’t drink that Koolaid.

It goes to a bad place. And it’s always a lie.

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Jen's avatar

They changed women/woman??? I can't deal any of this shit.

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Kelli's avatar

I know. Ridiculous

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Elly Klein: Your Dating Bestie's avatar

Another great piece, Kelli. I’m SO with you on this.

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Kelli's avatar

Thank you so much Elly 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

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Mitchell Silverman's avatar

Years ago, I came up what I thought was a rather elegant solution to the problem of having the word “man“ in “woman”

It’s a two-step process

The first step was already commonly used :

Replace woman with woperson

The problem is you still have the word “son”

So replace this with “daughter”

And you end up magnificently with :

Woperdaughter

You’re welcome

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Kelli's avatar

😂😂😂😂

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Xan's avatar

I bowed out of anything to do with modern feminism about 20 years, when it started morphing into a hate movement. Like you I’m so very grateful to the women who went before me and fought for our rights. Nowadays I cannot associate with the hypocritical freak show that feminism has become.

Clementine Ford is abominable.

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Kelli's avatar

She is abominable

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Devin Ryder's avatar

Great read and work all around. It's nice when we can all appreciate one another and test reach other respectfully as equals.

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Kelli's avatar

Thanks Devin.

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Harry's avatar

Excellent. On my census form, when it asked “race”, I answered “human”, and when it asked “sex”, I wrote “occasionally”.

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Kelli's avatar

Love it!

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Roger Kimber, MD's avatar

You are the lunchtime receptionist because as a woman, you are naturally adept at making people welcome and comfortable

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Kelli's avatar

Thank you Roger.

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Roger Kimber, MD's avatar

And there is nothing wrong with that, I and 99 44/100% of men couldn’t do as good a job & the 66/100% of men that would do as well as you would all be effeminate homosexuals and would creep most people out.

Just like, I am sure you wouldn’t make a very good mobster or foot lineman!

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EFS's avatar

I've never liked labeling myself, mostly because the other group member's ideas differed so greatly, both from mine and each others. (The exception being identifying as a Jew.)

"Feminist" used to mean something positive, but most who identify as such now have adopted some very ugly beliefs and behaviors that have nothing to do with improving the lives and status of women.

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Erik Rexwinkel's avatar

Woman should just choose what they want in life in good conversation and concordance with their husbands who struggle with the same things. Am I a good dad? Back in the days one income was sufficient, nowadays it's not. Just make it happen, together.

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Pamela Schieber's avatar

Years ago , in the 70s, a"friend" asked why I wasn't a feminist. I said because I'm pretty, I always have a boyfriend. I always knew how to say no when bothered by the opposite sex. Now, as a 75 year old woman, I tell woman to enjoy the attention. It's very fleeting so it's extremely important to develop your mind. And don't be a bitch.

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Tiffany Ryder's avatar

I feel all of this deeply.

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